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Visiting Japan is an exciting adventure, but you should be aware of local Japanese manners and customs. Otherwise, your lack of knowledge could lead to unintentional bad manners.
I've been living in Japan for decades, when it comes to Japanese etiquette I still make mistakes from time-to-time. I'm a loud Australian and I will never be able to pass as Japanese. But I can try my hardest to be considerate of other Japanese people around me.
From talking on your phone on the train, to talking loudly in a public bar, to improper chopstick use, what is considered polite elsewhere may be rude behavior in Japan. By understanding what is etiquette rules in Japan, you can show respect and enjoy a more fulfilling experience in this fascinating country.
Japanese culture values tranquility and respect for others' personal space, so loud talking can disrupt harmony and draw unwanted attention.
My foreign friends and I often find ourselves talking too loudly on Japanese trains. It is easy to do when the train is making noise and your catching up and enjoying the conversation.
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If you try to speak on your phone on a crowded train, another passenger may tell you off. Otherwise, they will passive aggressively glare at you.This one is not seen as rude as it once was. Traditionally, eating while walking, known as tabearuki, was seen as bad manners in Japan. Japanese culture emphasizes appreciating food in the proper setting.
However, today exceptions exist. For example, at Japanese festivals or certain tourist areas like Osaka's Dotonbori.
Outside of these cases, it's best to avoid eating on the go. If you buy street food, try to eat it near the stall or find a place to sit.
If you are in a building or house where you are expected to take off your shoes, DO IT! Even if it is your own apartment, do not wear your shoes indoors. I have known foreigners who did not take off their shoes inside. When they had Japanese guests over, their guests felt very embarrassed.
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This one is also not as bad today as it once was. People used to be shocked if I blew my nose out loud. Today, people care much less about it.Pointing with your finger in Japan is seen as aggressive and impolite. For example, at convenience stores, don’t point at what you want. Instead, use an open hand with the palm facing down to indicate direction or draw attention to something. This polite gesturing aligns with Japanese cultural emphasis on respect and harmony.
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Some people get really upset about this one. In 2023, there was some controversy about a Japanese convenience store clerk posting a note to foreign customers, telling them not to point and say 'this'.In Japan, chopstick etiquette is a serious matter and there are many chopstick rules to consider.
Do not kiss and hug on the street! Public displays of affection (PDA) are generally frowned upon and considered bad manners in Japan. This is the reason why love hotels are so popular in Japan!
While holding hands is acceptable, kissing and hugging in public can make others uncomfortable. Japanese culture values modesty and emotional restraint in public spaces.
When my wife and I were younger and still dating, we got publicly told off for this one!
Japan is known for its cleanliness, and littering is considered extremely rude behavior.
Onsen (hot springs) have specific etiquette. Failing to follow these is considered rude behavior in Japan.
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I have tattoos, so most onsen bath houses won't let me in. I have talked my way into an onsen before, but it is generally not allowed.Local Insight:
In mid-2024, a British national living in Kyoto and running a walk tour business got into trouble with locals for disrespectful behavior at Yasaka Shine in Kyoto. Through social media, his business was forced to close and his family harassed.Understanding and avoiding these bad manners in Japan can significantly enhance your travel experience. By respecting local customs and etiquette, you'll show consideration for Japanese culture and enjoy a more fulfilling visit. Remember, being mindful and observant is key. When in doubt, follow the lead of the locals, and you'll navigate Japan's rich cultural landscape with ease.
In Japan, avoid speaking loudly, pointing at people, and eating while walking. Also, don’t leave chopsticks sticking upright in rice as it resembles funeral customs. Respect personal space and always remove shoes indoors where required.
Yes, tipping is not common in Japan and can even be considered rude. Instead, show your appreciation with a thank you and polite bow. Exceptional service is already included in the price, so no tip is necessary.
No, it’s considered impolite to talk on the phone on Japanese trains. Trains are treated as quiet spaces, so keep your phone on silent mode and avoid disturbing others.
In Japan, it’s a polite custom to pour drinks for others and allow them to pour yours. Pouring your own drink might be seen as ignoring tradition and can seem impersonal during meals or social gatherings.
Never point with chopsticks, pass food directly from chopstick to chopstick, or stab food. These actions can remind people of funeral practices, so use chopsticks carefully and place them on a chopstick rest when not in use.
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I've been immersed in Japanese culture and daily life for over 30 years and am proud to call Japan my home. Originally from Australia, my journey has taken me from teaching at Japanese universities to traveling extensively across the country, uncovering its hidden gems. As a web developer, I built Romancing Japan from the ground up to share these experiences with you. Whether it's the charm of old Kyoto, the pulse of Tokyo, or the tranquility of the countryside, I love helping others discover the magic of Japan—one story at a time.