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Visiting Japan is an exciting adventure, but being unaware of local Japanese customs can lead to unintentional bad manners. From talking loudly in public to improper chopstick use, what is considered polite elsewhere may be rude behavior in Japan.
This guide covers 15 things not to do in Japan, helping you navigate Japanese manners for public spaces, dining, and sacred sites. By understanding what is etiquette rules in Japan, you can show respect and enjoy a more fulfilling experience in this fascinating country.
In Japan, speaking softly is the norm. Loud conversations are considered impolite and can disturb others. To avoid bad manners in Japan, keep your voice down in public spaces like trains, buses, and restaurants. Japanese culture values tranquility and respect for others' personal space, so loud talking can disrupt harmony and draw unwanted attention.
"My foreign friends and I often find ourselves talking too loudly on Japanese trains. It is easy to do when the train is making noise and your catching up and enjoying the conversation."
Talking on your phone is considered very rude behavior and highly inconsiderate in Japan. Keep your phone on silent mode, known as "Manner Mode," and avoid watching videos or playing games with the sound on. Texting is acceptable, but if you receive a call, it's polite to step off or hang up and text back.
"If you try to speak on your phone on a crowded train, another passenger may tell you off. Otherwise, they will passive aggressively glare at you."
This one is not seen as rude as it once was. Eating while walking, known as tabearuki, is generally frowned upon and considered bad manners in Japan. Japanese culture emphasizes appreciating food in the proper setting. While exceptions exist at festivals or certain tourist areas, it's best to avoid eating on the go. If you buy street food, try to eat it near the stall or find a place to sit.
"When I first went to Japan in the early '90s, my friends and I were not aware of this rule and we freely strolled down the street while munching on McD's. I soon realized that people were walking past and looking at us in horror. Today, it is generally older people who care about this rule. If you go to Dotonbori in Osaka, 'tabearuki' has become a tourist attraction."
Tipping is not customary in Japan and can be seen as rude behavior. Attempting to tip may suggest that the staff is not paid adequately. Instead, show appreciation for good service by thanking the staff with a simple "arigatou gozaimasu" and a slight bow. Excellent service is considered a standard part of the dining experience in Japan.
Wearing shoes indoors is considered bad manners in Japan. Always remove your shoes when entering private homes, traditional inns (ryokans), temples, and some restaurants. Use the genkan (entryway) to step out of your shoes and into indoor slippers if provided. Remember, feet and socks should not touch the same ground as shoes.
"If you are in a building or house where you are expected to take off your shoes, DO IT! Even if it is your own apartment, do not wear your shoes indoors. I have known foreigners who did not take off their shoes inside. When they had Japanese guests over, their guests felt very embarrassed."
Blowing your nose in public is often seen as impolite in Japan. It's better to sniffle or excuse yourself to a restroom to blow your nose. If you must, do so discreetly and quietly. Wearing a surgical mask when sick is common and shows consideration for others by preventing the spread of germs.
"This one is also not as bad today as it once was. People used to be shocked if I blew my nose out loud. Today, people care much less about it."
Pointing with your finger is considered rude behavior in Japan. It's seen as aggressive and impolite. For example, at convenience stores, don’t point at what you want. Instead, use an open hand with the palm facing down to indicate direction or draw attention to something. This polite gesturing aligns with Japanese cultural emphasis on respect and harmony.
"Some people get really upset about this one. In 2023, there was some controversy about a Japanese convenience store clerk posting a note to foreign customers, telling them not to point and say 'this'."
In Japan, chopstick etiquette is a serious matter and there are many chopstick rules to consider. However, the most serious of these is sticking chopsticks upright in rice. This is seen as a major cultural faux pas and considered both bad manners and bad luck in Japan. This act is associated with funeral rituals and is deeply disrespectful. When not using chopsticks, rest them on a chopstick holder or lay them parallel across your dish.
Punctuality is highly valued in Japan. Being late is considered rude behavior and shows a lack of respect for others' time. Aim to arrive at least 10 minutes early for appointments. If you anticipate being late, inform the other party immediately and apologize sincerely.
Excessive public displays of affection (PDA) are generally frowned upon and considered bad manners in Japan. While holding hands is acceptable, kissing and hugging in public can make others uncomfortable. Japanese culture values modesty and emotional restraint in public spaces.
"When my wife and I were younger and still dating, we got publicly told off for this one!"
Japan is known for its cleanliness, and littering is considered extremely rude behavior. Public trash cans may be scarce, so it's common practice to carry your trash with you until you find a proper disposal spot. Always dispose of waste properly to respect Japan's clean culture.
Queuing is fundamental in Japan, reflecting politeness and consideration. Ignoring queue lines or cutting in is considered bad manners in Japan. Always line up orderly in single file for trains, buses, and shops, and wait your turn patiently.
Onsen (hot springs) have specific etiquette. Failing to follow these is considered rude behavior in Japan. Always wash and rinse your body thoroughly before entering the communal bath. Enter the onsen naked—swimwear is usually not permitted—and be mindful of others by keeping noise levels low.
"I have tattoos, so most onsen won't let me in. I have occasionally talked my way in, but it is generally no allowed."
While Japanese people appreciate efforts to speak their language, making no effort or being dismissive is considered bad manners. Learning basic Japanese phrases shows respect and can enhance your experience. Simple expressions like "arigatou gozaimasu" (thank you very much) and "sumimasen" (excuse me) are appreciated.
Due to recent badly behaved tourists in Japan, disrespecting sacred spaces like shrines and temples has become a big issue. Considered this to be extremely rude behavior in Japan! Keep your voice down, dress modestly, and follow the proper etiquette when visiting. This includes bowing upon entering, following purification rituals, and being respectful of photography rules.
"You should take this one seriously. In mid-2024, a British national living in Kyoto and running walking tours got into trouble with locals for what they saw as disrespectful behavior at Yasaka Shine in Kyoto."
Understanding and avoiding these bad manners in Japan can significantly enhance your travel experience. By respecting local customs and etiquette, you'll show consideration for Japanese culture and enjoy a more fulfilling visit. Remember, being mindful and observant is key. When in doubt, follow the lead of the locals, and you'll navigate Japan's rich cultural landscape with ease.
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With over 30 years of experience in Japanese culture and lifestyle, I am a permanent resident of Japan. As a web developer, I built Romancing Japan from scratch. Although originally from Australia, I have dedicated a significant part of my professional career to teaching at Japanese universities. My extensive travels across Japan have given me intimate knowledge of life in this country, and I am excited to share these insights with you.